How to know if you are in a healthy relationship
Healthy relationships are:
Reciprocal
Good things should flow back and forth
Characterized by Productive Conflict
It is important to move or work through conflicts, even if it’s in small bites. Otherwise, you’ll express your resentment, or frustration, ‘sideways’, and your relationship will likely: bog down, become full of unexpressed hurt, then become hurt.
Enjoyable
Yes, you have to ‘work’ to communicate and move conflict. But not all of the time….build capital in the relationship by engaging, connecting, and being playful.
Growthful
Growth is a lifelong process. Choosing to actively engage growth supports feeling alive and vibrant, individually, and in terms of the relationship. The relationship is unlikely to work if you’re not on the same page about deicating yourself to growth.
Respectful
Yes, treat the Other(s) as you wish to be treated. Expect the Other(s) to treat you well, too. Being respectful is a key ingredient to productive conflict. During conflict, some heat and intensity are okay, but it’s never okay to demean the Other(s).
Value Your Relationships
They are a treasure and one of the things that will mean the most to you at the end of your (hopefully many) days. Be grateful for each and every one.
